lunes, 2 de marzo de 2009

Entry nº 21: Real boys II

“Even as we continue to harden our boys the old-fashioned way, we expect them to live-up to some very modern and contradictory expectations” pape 24-25. I agree with this statement because as the author also says, while society is encouraging women to talk through their voices, it also expects boys to show respect for girls and to express their feelings but without leaving the old-fashioned stereotype. This of course, will confuse men and boys and even little kids because it is an absolutely contradictory message”.
“We might replace the old boy code with one that is more consonant with our new understanding of real boys page 25. I think this is the only way that our modern society will be able to make boys free from that “gender straightjacket”, and so they will recover their true selves, but more important, I think that only that way men and women will come to real understanding.
“The problems below the surface become obvious only when boys go “over the edge” and get into trouble” page 5, part one. In my opinion boys hare learned to hide their sufferign so well that the only way we are, specially parents and teachers, to know that something wrong is going on, is when they get into trouble. I think it is the only way they know to express themselves because they are not allowed to do as women do, by opening up and talk about it.
“Boys often are hiding not only a wide range of their fellings but also come of their creativity and originality” page 7, part one. I agree with this statement because I’ve seen many boys that to avoid being ashamed by their mates do not show their creativity, because it is usually a woman staff to be creative or imaginative. In some context boys are even treated as gays when they show some special attitudes and originality, especially at school.
“If boys violate the boy code, society tends to let them know-swiftly and forcefully- in the form of a faunt by a sibling, a rebuke by a parent or a teacher, or ostracism by classmates” page 7. I agree with boys are warned not to violate the code. As an example I can talk about my husband and his change from being a sensitive young adolescent to being a hardened man after he passed for the police school. He changed almost completely, they made him fit the stereotype and follow the boys code and now he cannot come back to what he used to be.-

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